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• praying • before • intercourse • with • the • wife • 

November 2, 2008
Question:

What is the ruling on praying two Rak’ahs before having sexual intercourse on the wedding night?

Answer:

Some of the Companions, may Allah be pleased with them, prayed two Rak’ahs before having sexual intercourse with their wives on the first night. But I know of no authentic Sunnah from the Messenger of Allah – Sallallahu alaihi wasallam- regarding this. The Sunnah is to touch the women on the forehead and ask Allah for her goodness and the goodness of that she brings to him, and to seek refuge with Allah from her evil and the evil of what is ordained for him. And if he fears in this case that the woman will run away from him, he should touch her forehead, as if he wants to draw close to her and kiss her, then supplicate to Allah with supplication in secret, so that she does not hear it, because some women might imagine something (bad) if she heard her husband saying: I seek refuge with You from her evil and the evil of what is ordained for him, and say: Is there evil in me?

Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih al-`Uthaymeen
Fatawa Islamiyah Page no. 178 Vol: 5
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• you • better • get • married •

October 24, 2008

It is reported that Taawoos*  – may Allaah have mercy on him – said, “The worship and devoutness of a young person is not complete until he marries.”

Ibraahim bin Maysurah reports that Taawoos said to him, “You better get married or I will say to you what ‘Umar ibn Al-Khattaab said to Abuz-Zawaa’id: ‘Nothing but incapability or sinfulness is preventing you from getting married!'”

Adh-Dhahabi, Siyar A’laam Al-Nubalaa’, in his biography of Taawoos.

• benefit • of • the • day • magazine •

September 1, 2008

Ramadaan 1429

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• a • woman • scholar • of • Qur’aan •

August 16, 2008

A Woman Scholar of the Quran
(Verily Knowledge is taken away by the Death of the Scholars)

Umm Al-Sa’ad Al-Iskandraniyyah (Alexandria)

[D. 17th Ramadhan 1427(Around October 10th, 2006)]


After Umm Al-Sa’ad completed her memorization of the Quran at the age of 15 she went to the Shaykha Nufaysa bint Abu Al-Alaa, who was known as “The Shaykha of her time” to request from her to learn the 10 Qira’aat (recitations). Nufaysa agreed on an peculiar condition; that Umm Al-Sa’ad never marry. She used to refuse to teach girls because they would marry, become busy(with husband and kids), and neglect the Quran.

What was even more amazing was that Umm Al-Sa’ad accepted the condition from her Shaykha who was known for her strictness and harshness against those whom she did not feel were proper for this honorable task. But Umm Al-Sa’ad was encouraged by the fact that her Shaykha herself had never married, even though there were many of the great scholars who had sought her hand, and she died in that state while in her eighties, having secluded herself to the Quran!

Umm Al-Sa’ad said, “It is from the blessings of my Lord that anyone who has obtained an ijaaza in the Quran, in any Qiraa’ah, in Alexandria either received it directly from me (munaawala) or from someone whom I had given an ijaaza to.

And what proved her unique status was that she was the only woman to whom recitors and huffadh of the Quran would travel to receive ijaaza in the ten qira’aat.

Umm Al-Sa’ad Ali Najm,age 77, is considered to be the most well known woman in the world of recitations of the Quran. The only woman to specialize in the ten qira’aat, and has spent over fifty years granting ijaazas in the ten qira’aat.

Waves of people could be seen entering and leaving her humble apartment, students who dreamed of memorizing the Quran, comprised of different age groups and both genders.

Classes for the women and girls would begin from 8 AM until 2 PM after which the classes for men and boys would start until 8 PM. Umm Al-Sa’ad would continue all day with no breaks except for salah and a light meal to sustain her.

Umm Al-Sa’ad was born into a poor family in a town called Bandaariya, one of the towns of the larger city Munofiyya (north of Cairo). She was afflicted by blindness shortly after her first year and, as was the practice of many in rural areas in dealing with blindness, her family sent her to learn the Quran. She completed her memorization in Alexandria at the age of 15. She then completed the memorization of the ten recitations of the Quran from Shaykha Nufaysa when she had reached the age of 23.

Umm Al-Sa’ad mentioned that when she had completed her memorization of the qira’aat the number of huffaadh were few. Families used to request from her, as they had requested from her Shaykha before her, to recite Quran for them at occasions and religious festivals. It was acceptable at that time for a woman to recite the Quran with tajweed in the presence of men who- as she recounted- used to praise her recitation and the beauty of her tajweed. She mentioned however that this practice disappeared after Quranic recitors became widespread, as well as the spread of radios and televisions, and the most that could be done by a female recitor now is to recite at occasions that were females only. She believed that the real reason for this however was the belief that had increased in the recent years that the voice of the woman is awrah.

She had one of the highest Isnaads (chains of narration) in the world. Her isnaad in the recitation of Hafs from Aasim had 27 Shaykhs in between her and the Messenger of Allah Sal Allahu Alayhi wa Sallam. This put her on the same level with well known Shuyukh of recitation such as Shaykh Abdul Basit Hashim and Shaykh Muhammad Abd Alhameed Abdullah.

Many different types of people would return to her, seeking the completion of the Quran or ijaazah in a Qiraa’ah, from all ages and levels in society. In a day she would teach old and young students, men and women, engineers, doctors, teachers, university professors, college students, high school students, etc.

She would single out for each student a time, not more than an hour in a day, in which the student would recite what they had memorized and she would correct their mistakes bit by bit, until they memorize the Quran in one of it’s qira’aat.

Umm Al-Sa’ad once commented:

“Sixty years of memorizing the Quran and it’s recitations has made me unable to forget any of it. I can recall every ayah, it’s surah and its juz, I know the ayaat that are similar (mutashabih) and how to recite the same ayah in different qira’aat. I feel like I know the Quran like my name, I cannot imagine forgetting a letter of it or making a mistake in it. I don’t know anything other than the Quran and its recitations. I never learned a science, listened to a lecture, or memorized anything other than the Quran and the mutoon that were related to the Quran and tajweed. I don’t know anything other than that.”

Her students:

When asked about her students Umm Al-Sa’ad said:

“I remember every one of them, there were some who received Ijaaza in one of the recitations, and there were some (and they were very few) who received ijaaza in all ten recitations. They are the ones who receive an ijaaza with a special seal that I have that I always keep with me, I never give it to anyone no matter how much I have trust in them.”

The happiest days for Umm Al-Sa’ad are the days of khatma, when she would grant a student an ijaaza, even though she has experienced this day over 300 times! She keeps a copy of every ijaaza, the most recent one being to a sister in the recitation of Qaloon from Nafi’.

On the day of khatma, a waleema is normally done, or a tea party with sweets. The student who is receiving the ijaaza normally gives a gift to the Shaykha; a jilbab, a ring, golden earrings, all according to what they can afford. As for the most beautiful gift that the Shaykha received was a Hajj and Umrah trip accompanied with being hosted in Saudia for an entire year! The best part of the trip, after the hajj and umrah, was that she reviewed the Quran, and granted ijaazas in all ten recitations to students from all over the world; Saudi Arabia, Pakistan, Sudan, Palestine, Lebanon, Chad, Afghanistan…

The most beloved of those ijaazas that she granted was to a student from Saudi Arabia who received it when she was seventeen years old!

The wives of her students become jealous…

And from the most interesting things that Umm Al-Sa’ad recounts is that some of the wives of her students became jealous and fearful that she might “snatch” their husbands. Especially since their husbands would continually speak about their Shaykha with pride and endearment. To the extent that some of the wives would accompany their husbands to the class to ensure that their fear had no real cause, for the Shaykha was old and blind!

“And some of the men hesitated to recite to me considering that I’m a woman, and some refused, but Shaykh Muhammad Isma’eel (the most well known shaykh of Qur’an and Sunnah in Alexandria) gave a fatwa that they could when he learned of my age, and he sent his entire family to me to recite to me!”

And what about her marriage?

When she was asked about the closest student to her, she replied “My husband, Shaykh Muhammad Fareed Nu’man.”

Shaykh Muhammad Fareed, who- before his death some years ago-was the most well known recitor on Alexandria radio. He was also the first one to receive an ijaaza from Umm Al-Sa’ad.

She said about the story of her marriage, “I was not able to keep my promise to my Shaykha Nufaysa. He used to recite to me the Quran in all ten recitations, I became comfortable with him, and he was like me in that he was blind and memorized the Quran at an early age. I taught him for five years, and when he finished he asked me for my hand in marriage and I accepted.”

She was married to him for forty years and had no children.

But she had students who were huffadh and recitors of the Quran, so all praise is due to Allah.

She commentated on that saying, “Alhamdullilah, I feel like Allah chooses for me the good always. Maybe if I had children I would have become busy with them and neglected the Quran or forgot it.”

• advice • from • a • shaykh’s • wife •

July 22, 2008
All praise is for Allah, and may peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah (sallalahu alayhi wasalaam), and upon (the Messenger’s) family and companions.

As salaamu alaykunna,

Inshaa`Allah this email reaches all of you in the best of health and in a high state of eeman.  Umm Abdil Wahhab has been married to Sheikh Hassan Al-Banna (hafithuallah) for 25 years. She is 67 years old and has 1 son.  She is a wonderful woman, very warm, genuine and friendly.  I truly miss her and was saddened by their departure.    Alhumdulilah, we had an opportunity to speak with her and she shared some (what I call) pearls of wisdom.  She told us that the Sheikh does all of the shopping for their house and for her.  She was rather puzzled at the fact that women in the states go shopping.  She said she has never seen this in Islam.  She asked why the men do not go, when she was told the men work, she said in a matter of fact tone – ok since they work during the week, they can go shopping on Saturday and Sunday.  When asked what piece of advice would she give to the women in the states, she said first and foremost LEARN ARABIC. She said she was saddened that there were not more sisters in the states that speak Arabic.  She said she doesn’t understand why we learn (and teach our children) Quran before we learn to read, write and understand Arabic.  She said she thought that was backwards, as how can we truly understand Quran, if we do not understand Arabic.  Without the true understanding, it is just memorization and this is not enough.  She said our first priority should be learning Arabic, and then teaching our children.  She said we should speak Arabic in our homes and to each other as much as possible.  She said our children should be making salat at the age of 7 and we should beat them with miswak (for not making it) at 10. On Friday, at the Masjid, after salatul Maghrib, she asked why the sisters do not make the sunnah prayers.  She stressed that the sunnah prayers were muakkada (highly stressed) and she asked that this be conveyed to all the sisters.  She expressed concern about the women in the states and the number of marriages and divorces.  She said she saw so many women crying over the marriages and this made her sad.  She talked about how women spoke to her about divorcing and being remarried within a few months.  She said she did not understand how and why this happened and that this upset her as well.  She said the men are responsible for 3 things (housing, clothing and food – period).  She mentioned the murder of Brother Siddiq and she said that women must submit to the deen completely.  Polygyny is part of Islam and if the husband wants to exercise this right the women must submit.  She talked about sisterhood and ramadan coming, and she said the families should be getting together throughout the month of ramadan and beyond.  She said we should be visiting one another, sharing meals, bringing food to each others homes and enjoying each others company.  She also talked about the way the women dress (kuffar) in the states.  She said it was so bad that she had to cover her eyes.  She spoke of several other things as well, mashaa`Allah.  My dear sisters, this last thing I am going to write literally brought tears to all of our eyes when she said it and it is something that we should all reflect on…We asked Umm Abdil-Wahhaab how she felt about her visit to the states (this was upon her arrival and before she had an opportunity to go to the Masjid in Philly) she said “the Salafiyoon in the States is all talk no deen, all talk no religion” – My dear sisters, on that note, I will close.

I pray that I have presented this wonderful woman’s words accurately.  I ask Allah subhanu wa ta al`aa to forgive me for anything that I have stated incorrectly.  Inshaa`Allah her words will serve as a reminder for us all and may Allah bless her and the Sheikh in this life and in the next. Ameen.

Wasalaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatuallah wa maghfiratuhu

Allahumma-ghfir li dhanbi kullahu, diqqahu wa jillahu, wa awwalahu wa akhirahu wa ala niyatahu wa sirrahu. (O Allah, forgive me all my sins great and small, first and last, those that are apparent and those that are hidden).

• definition • of • tabarruj •

July 18, 2008

The author of Lisān Al-‘Arab (3/33) said:

[Tabarruj] is the woman’s displaying of her beauty, or exposing her face and the charms of her body to men, and everything that elicits their desire, and strutting in her walk, so long as that is not for the husband.”

• why • women • are • ‘awrah •

June 27, 2008

Abdullaah ibn Mas’ood – Allaah be pleased with him – said:

Women are but an ‘awrah (something private to be covered). A woman might leave her house without there being any problem with her, but the Shaytaan seeks her out and says, “You will not pass buy anyone except that you will impress/please him.” A woman puts on her clothes and is asked where she is going, to which she replies, “To visit a sick person,” or “to attend a funeral”, or “to pray in the masjid”; but a woman never worships Allaah in the way she does when she worships Him in her house.

At-Tabaraanee. Graded saheeh by Shaykh Al-Albaanee in Saheeh At-Targheeb wa At-Tarheeb 1/84.

• a • beautiful • example • of • ghayrah •

June 20, 2008

On this topic, a famous historical incident is mentioned, so that males and females with a sense of honor and enthusiasm may know how the pious predecessors despised a woman unveiling her face before men, although in the following instance it was permissible to unveil the face.

During the third century hijri, the qaadi of Rayy and Ahwaaz, Musa bin Ishaaq, sat to adjudicate people’s disputes. Among the litigants was a woman who claimed five hundred dinars mahr from her husband.

The husband denied the claim.

The qaadi said to the husband, “Bring your witnesses.”

The husband said, “I have brought them.”

The qaadi said to one of the witnesses, “Look at the wife so you may point her out during testimony.”

The witness stood up and said to the woman, “Stand.”

Upon this, the husband said, “What do you want from her?”

The husband was told, “It is necessary that the witness sees your wife unveiled so that he may know that it is your wife.”

The husband detested his wife unveiling her face for the witnesses in public. He screamed, saying, “I make the qaadi my witness that this mahr of my wife is an obligation on me, and she must not unveil her face!”

When the wife heard this, she thought it was wonderful that her husband disapproved of her unveiling her face before the witnesses, and was protecting her from the sight of people.

She too screamed at the qaadi, “I make you a witness that I have granted my mahr to him, and have absolved him in this dunya and the aakhirah!”

The qaadi said to those around him, “Record this as a moral standard.”

– Taken from Tarbiyat Al-Awlaaad Fil Islaam

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May 9, 2008

Safar 1429

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• beautiful • but • disobedient •

April 13, 2008

On the authority of ‘Abdullaah Ibn Mas’ood – may Allaah be pleased with him, who said:

May Allaah curse those women who tattoo or seek to be tattooed, those women who remove facial hair or seek it to be removed and those women who put gaps between their teeth for beautification; those who seek to change Allaah’s creation.

This reached a woman from Bani Asad who was called Umm Ya’qoob and who used to read the Qur`aan. She came to [Ibn Mas’ood] and said, “What is this I hear from you, that you curse women who tattoo or seek to get tattooed, and those who remove facial hair and those who put gaps between their teeth for beauty, those who change Allaah’s creation?” ‘Abdullaah [Ibn Mas’ood] replied, “And why should I not curse those whom Allaah’s Messenger has cursed and those who are mentioned in Allaah’s Book?” She said, “I have read [the Qur`aan] from cover to cover and I have not seen it mentioned.” He replied, “If you had really read it [carefully] you would have found it; Allaah the Mighty and Sublime said:

And whatever the Messenger gives you, take it; and whatever he forbids you, shun it. [Al-Hashr (59):7]

The woman then said, “Well I have just seen some of this on your own wife.” He said, “Go and see her.” So she went to the wife of ‘Abdullaah but didn’t see anything. She returned to him and said, “I don’t see anything.” He said, “Well, if any of those practices had been done I would not be with her any more.”

Al-Bukhaari and Muslim. This translation is from the version in Muslim.

Points to note:

  • The teachings of Allaah’s Messenger have the same legal weight as teachings in the Qur`aan because the Qur`aan commands us to take everything the Messenger teaches us, even if it is not specifically mentioned in the Qur`aan. This refutes the claim of heretics who say we only need to follow the Qur`aan
  • It can even be said that a ruling given by Allaah’s Messenger is in the Qur`aan based on the verse quoted
  • Tattooing, removal of facial hair – including the plucking of eyebrows – and making gaps between the teeth for beautification are strictly forbidden in Islaam and are regarded as major sins. In another narration, hair extensions have also been mentioned
  • Exceptions have been made by scholars in cases where a woman suffers a condition that causes her to grow a full beard, or where filing of teeth and widening spaces are needed for medical reasons
  • Being cursed (al-la’nah) means to be removed from Allaah’s mercy; this goes to prove that these practices are major sins
  • People should ask Allaah to curse those whom Allaah’s Messenger has asked to be cursed
  • Women can ask male scholars about matters of religion and can converse with them for the purpose of understanding knowledge and legal rulings
  • Wives who remain disobedient to Allaah should be divorced
  • A person who helps another to sin is regarded as a participant in that sin

These points have been summarized from Ibn Hajar, Fath Al-Baari and An-Nawawi, Sharh Sahih Muslim.